I’ve recently become obsessed with stacking rings. I was already in love with generally wearing them so when I saw midi rings that meant you could get EVEN MORE rings onto your hands, I was SOOOLD.
I’ll always buy more rings than I can handle, it’s inevitable. Reasoning: there’s a high likelihood of me eventually ‘misplacing’ between one and twenty rings over a period of about 2 years, so I need many a ring to replace them.
Anywho, because I have this tendency to end up with a lot less rings than I started with, I just buy the cheap ones that come in sets. I ordered two packs from Urb-O (aka urban outfitters) and was super psyched when I found out that the sticky labels on them had stuck to an extra packet meaning I got another 3 rings for free. BOOM SHACKOW. Hella yes I wore all those rings.
NINE. plus the two plain gold ones I’d bought at Brooklyn Flea.
Now, here’s the rant part. So skip past it if you’re adverse to bloggers complaining about things.
I try to stay away from some topics on here because I don’t want to infuriate the wrath of some internet trolls who’ll make me feel bad enough from their anonymous words to wonder if I should just delete a post.
But this is something I feel like I HAVE to bring up.
I was standing at the tube station on my way to a friend’s. I was wearing alllll of my rings. Don’t doubt it. I posted a picture of said ring-covered hand on instagram. Caption ‘I think I need more rings’.
The next morning I saw that I had a comment on it saying ‘You need to be like a lady and fix that ugly nail polish :-S ‘
Wow. I wasn’t expecting such a sexist, offensive and degrading comment.
I was going to delete it, but I didn’t.
Apparently, being female requires me to a) need to be like a lady and b) have non-chipped nail polish.
Why does me having two X chromosomes mean that I NEED to be like a ‘LADY’ and since when does having chipped nail polish make one LESS of a ‘lady’? Doesn’t the very fact that I can BIRTH a human child mean that I am a lady? (Ps, totally not saying if you can’t, that you’re not a lady!!)
Definition time: “Lady, 1. A well-mannered and considerate woman with high standards of proper behavior.”
So having chipped nail polish now makes me an ill-mannered, inconsiderate person with low standards of proper behaviour. (Funny how it doesn’t mention anything about appearance.)
Geez, I didn’t know that my morals, 17 years of upbringing and record of no complaints about my behaviour (except maybe from my mum when she gets annoyed at me) would all be struck through, just from this one thing.
Does this mean that I can no longer walk through the restroom door marked ‘Ladies’ until I have fixed my nail polish? Is there a ninja standing by the door throwing nunchucks at women without perfect appearances?
I really don’t see how any of it makes sense at all.
The reason I always (and I mean alwayssss) have chipped nail polish is because I spend a ridiculous amount of time washing up dishes after cooking. I wonder if that female stereotype of ‘being in the kitchen 24/7 and cleaning up’ would make her accept such ugly nail polish more. Or does that make me even less of a lady seeming as an upper-class ‘lady’ in the 19th Century (the era in which similarly sexist stereotypes were common) would have had enough money to have a servant to cook and clean all the dishes for them.
I wonder what she’d think about the state of my hair too – split ends and frizz. Too much time spent learning, socialising and creating. Not enough time spent on upkeep of my appearance. Most un-ladylike.
What’s sad is that this is 2013, not the 19th Century. I’d like to think nowadays that people would support and promote equality, not sexism and insults. The use of the word ‘lady’ should literally be a polite way of referring to a female human being. Not a word used to refer to your class or someone else’s standards of how you should look.
I don’t think people have the authority to criticise others’ appearances, especially if one makes it about a person’s gender or bases it on ‘stereotypical’ outdated ideas about what is ‘proper’.
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and chipped nail polish is totally okay, because guess what – your appearance does NOT qualify as a measure of your womanliness, manliness, how lady-like/un lady-like you are or your importance as a human being. Do what your doing, OWN IT and don’t let close-minded people get you down.
Now me mateys, we are going to to get back to the food!
I mentioned in my New York post that I had this dish at ABC Kitchen and managed to get the basic recipe from our brilliant waitress. The note I took was:
Sourdough bread – toasted with olive oil and salt
Squash – roasted with chili, lemon, salt. Mash with caramelised onions, apple cider vinegar and maple syrup.
You’ve probably already got an idea of how this is made.
Toast some rustic stylie bread (I didn’t bother with the olive oil) and spread on ricotta
Top it with a DELICIOUS mixture of roasted squash (they were using Kabocha. I used Butternut), caramelised onions, vinegar and maple syrup (a bit like pumpkin butter, I guess)
and you’re done! (I decorated mine with basil leaves, too). Its a really good way to use up any lacklustre squash and is perfect for a light, Winter-y lunch.
(p.s. yes I do have chipped nail polish on in these photos)
Preheat your oven to 400 F (200 C).
Peel medium butternut squash and halve it length-ways. Scoop out the seeds, then cut the squash into ~1-inch cubes. Place on a rimmed baking tray, toss with 1 tbsp of olive oil, lemon juice and the chili flakes. Roast for 30 minutes.
Either place into bowl and mash with a potato masher / blend with an immersion blender, or puree in a blender. Mix in the maple syrup and apple cider vinegar and season with salt to taste.
Meanwhile, add the onions to a dry frying pan and cook, stirring over a medium heat until browned. Add the remaining oil and a pinch of salt, and continue to cook for about 5 minutes until softened. Stir the caramelised onions into the mashed squash.
Spread about 1 tbsp of ricotta onto a toasted slice of bread and top with a generous amount of squash mixture. Serve warm or room temperature.